Today’s topic is on our unique path in life. For all of us growing up in today’s world, I’m sure you see comparisons abound all the time. There are comparisons with grades when you’re in school… coming from teachers, parents, and even your friends, your schoolmates. Many people are often comparing grades, like who’s got better grades, more achievements, etc.
今天的主题是我们生命中独一无二的道路。对于我们这些在当今世界长大的人来说，我敢肯定，你总是能看到很多的比较。当你在学校的成绩有比较…来自老师,家长,甚至是你的朋友,你的同学们。很多人经常拿分数来比较，比如谁得了更好的分数，更多的成就等等。
Then in life… you see people comparing things like the age people marry. This is very common in Asia. After you are married, there are comparisons in terms of the house, apartment you live in. After that, comparisons in terms of kids, who just had a kid, how many kids people have. Career-wise, too — like who got what job, how much someone is earning. So there are just these comparisons all the time. And it’s really subtle too. Sometimes, it’s not even obvious when the comparisons are being done.
然后在生活中…你看到人们比较多大年龄的人结婚。这在亚洲很常见。在你结婚之后，你就可以在房子和公寓里进行比较。之后，比较一下孩子，他们刚生了一个孩子，有多少孩子。职业生涯方面的，比如谁得到了什么工作，有多少人赚了多少钱。所以一直都有比较。这也很微妙。有时，在做比较的时候甚至都不明显。
This is a phenomenon known as Keeping up with the Joneses, where there’s this constant comparison with the person next to you. It could be our neighbors. It could be a comparison with your schoolmates, classmates, colleagues, friends, the people who grew up with you, or even people online. Online, everyone feels like they’re just next to us. We have Facebook, Instagram, and all that, and we can see what people are doing in just one click.
这是一种被称为攀比的现象，在这里有一个与你旁边的人经常比较的地方。可能是我们的邻居。它可以与你的同学、同事、朋友、和你一起长大的人、甚至是网上的人进行比较。在网上，每个人都觉得他们就在我们身边。我们有Facebook,Instagram，等等，只要点击一下就能看到人们在做什么。
So it’s increasingly easy to see what people are doing. With just a simple click, a simple message, a simple look, you can glance through people’s timeline and immediately see what they have been up to. And obviously, most people would just put their highlights in life. These days, there are countless apps, software to edit and present this perfect image online.
所以越来越容易看到人们在做什么。只需简单的点击，简单的信息，简单的外观，就可以浏览人们的时间表，并立即看到他们已经做了什么。显然，大多数人只会把他们的亮点放在生活中。每一天，有无数的应用程序，软件来编辑和在线呈现这个完美的形象。
So more and more, we’re faced with this perfect imagery of people’s lives. This increases this pressure to compare and wonder, Okay, why am I not at this level? Or if you are running an online business, it’s so easy to be comparing with someone else’s metrics. Followers, figures — all these are open for everybody to see. Or even number of comments, the feedback people are getting, and so on.
我们越来越多地面对人们生活的完美形象。这增加了这种压力，比较和怀疑，好吧，为什么我不在这个水平？或者，如果您经营的是在线业务，那么与其他人的指标进行比较是非常容易的。粉丝，点击，数字 - 所有这些都是开放给大家看的。甚至有多少评论，人们反馈的意见等等。
Now, what I want to share here is to remember: when you are comparing with other people, when you are feeling bad and thinking, Oh this person has this! This person is walking down this perfect track in life! Oh this person has accomplished all of these things! Just remember at this point that all of us have our unique path in life. You have your unique path in life. I have my unique path in life. So does the random person walking on the street. We have our unique paths in life. All of us have our own individual backgrounds. Our own set of parents. Our own set of upbringing. The places we grew up in. The experiences that we have. These are unique to us and because of that, we are all on a unique track.
现在，我要分享的是要记住：当你与别人比较，当你感觉不好时，想想，哦，这个人有这个！这个人正走在人生的这条完美轨道上！哦，这个人已经完成了所有这些事情！ 请记住，在这一点上，我们所有人都有我们独特的人生道路。你有自己独特的人生道路。我有我独特的人生道路。随机的人在街上行走也是如此。我们有我们独特的人生道路。我们所有人都有自己的个人背景。我们自己的父母。我们自己的一套教养。我们长大的地方。我们的经验。这些对我们来说是独一无二的，正因为如此，我们都处于一个独特的轨道上。
Now I understand that we have schools and systems that tend to commoditize people. Why do I say that? Because right from enrollment and matriculation in school, you are at a particular age and so are your peers and classmates. Everyone around you is at the same age and you move through the same class, the same curriculum. And because everyone is at the same age, there’s just this readiness for teachers, systems to distill and treat people more like metrics and statistics.
现在我明白了，我们的学校和系统倾向于将人们商品化。为什么这么说?因为从学校入学和入学开始，你就到了一个特定的年龄，你的同龄人和同学也是如此。你周围的每个人都在相同的年龄，你们在同一个班，相同的课程。因为每个人都在相同的年龄，所以教师会对比，筛选统计数据一样提炼和处理人才。
That’s where everyone sort of becomes a commodity, because it then boils down to the grades you’re having, the achievements that you have, in order to stand out above and beyond other people. Then after you graduate, this comparison switches to jobs. What pay are you getting? What job did you get into? What company did you get into? And then you become defined by your job, your company, your company’s brand name, and the number on your paycheck.
这就是每个人都会成为商品的地方，因为它会归结为你所拥有的成就，以及在其他人以上的成就。然后，毕业后，这个比较切换到工作。你有什么收入？你做了什么工作？你进了哪个公司？然后你的工作，你的公司，你的公司的品牌名称，以及你的工资条上的数字。
Even though society and systems do such comparisons, and these in a way makes us lose our humanity and sort of forget that we’re individual beings… at the end of the day, remember that schools, systems — they are really there for us to learn skills and to equip ourselves with knowledge, so that we can use these skills and knowledge to improve our life and to get into careers that we like. Or to move forward in the path that we want.
尽管社会和制度做了这样的比较，而这些在某种程度上使我们失去了我们的人性，忘记了我们是个体...在一天结束的时候，请记住，学校- 他们真的在那里为我们学习技能，装备自己的知识，使我们可以利用这些技能和知识来改善我们的生活，并进入我们喜欢的职业。或者在我们想要的道路上前进。
So putting this into perspective, remember that no matter what others do or how others try to treat you or how society tries to treat you, know that you are a unique individual with your unique life path. So that means there’s really no need to compare. There’s no need to compare in terms of, “Oh that person got married at age 28! So I should try to get married at age 28.” And when you are not married at age 28, 29, 30, 31, or 32, there’s no need to feel bad about that because we are all on our unique path.
因此，请记住，不管别人怎么做，也不管别人如何对待你，社会如何对待你，要知道你是一个独特的人，拥有你独特的人生道路。这意味着实际上没有必要进行比较。没有必要比较：“那个人28岁就结婚了！所以我应该在28岁的时候结婚。“当你28岁，29岁，30岁，31岁或32岁没有结婚的时候，没有必要为此感到难过，因为我们都走在了我们独特的道路上。
Same for when someone reaches a certain level of career or business success at the age of say, 25 or 30 or 35. There’s no need to look at that and feel, “Oh geez this person achieved this level of success! But I’m like five years older! I’m not even there yet.” There’s no need to do that.
当人们在25或30或35岁时达到一定的职业或商业成功水平时也是如此。没有必要去看那个，感觉到“哦，这个人成功了！但是我已经大他五岁了，我还没有呢。“没有必要这样做。
Or even say, someone chooses to have a kid at age 30, and then has two kids at age 32, and three kids at age 35. There’s no need to look at that and feel, “Oh geez, I’m 32 now. I don’t have a kid. Should I start to have a kid?”
甚至可以说，30岁的人有一个孩子，32岁时有两个孩子，三十五岁时有三个孩子。没有必要看这个，觉得：“哎呀，我现在32岁了。我没有孩子。我应该开始要一个孩子吗？“
What’s most important is what you want for yourself and what you want for your life. Not comparing with other people and what they have done in their lives. I mean, you can look on at other people’s lives as a way to get inspiration, as a way to get some reflection points for yourself, as a way to ponder, Okay, am I on the right track towards what I want for myself?
最重要的是你想要的东西和你想要的生活。不拿别人和他们在生活中做过的事做比较。我的意思是，你可以把别人的生活看成是获得灵感的一种方式，作为一种为自己获得一些反思点的方式，作为一种思考的方式，好吧，我是朝着自己想要的方向发展吗?
But don’t look towards other people’s paths as this model you should replicate, that you should follow suit. And then feel pressured when you’re not at that same place. That’s because other people are on their own tracks, and you have your own track. For what it’s worth, as you’re looking at the people and what they have “achieved,” you probably have achieved things that people don’t have. That are just unique to you.
但是不要把别人的路当作你应该复制的模型，你应该效仿。当你不在同一个地方的时候，你会感到压力。那是因为其他人都在自己的轨道上，你有自己的轨道。不管是什么样的，当你看着人民和他们所取得的成就时，你可能已经获得了人们所没有的东西。那是你独一无二的。
At the end of the day, the most important thing is to Create your path. Find your path. Know your worth. Not comparing yourself with other people as a way to pressurize yourself, to de-humanize, or to commoditize yourself. But remembering that you are this unique soul here on Earth. On your unique life path and your journey. And it’s about discovering what YOU want. Creating a life that you can be proud of. One that you can look back on and know that it is a life well lived.
在一天结束的时候，最重要的是创建你的路径。找到你的路径。知道你的价值。不要把自己和别人比较，并压迫自己，失去人性化，或使自己商品化的一种方式。但要记住，你是地球上这个独特的灵魂。在你独特的人生道路和你的旅程。这是关于发现你想要的东西。创造一个你可以引以为傲的生活。一个你可以回忆，自豪的生活。
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